Posts tagged Neighbors
Love As He Loved Us

This blog post was written by Theresa Adams, a Redeemer member, wife and mom, who would love to have her own roller skating rink & thinks getting her kids to eat kale is a major victory!

 

Loving others. Serving others. Meeting needs. All of those things can seem so daunting. So overwhelming. It can be paralyzing to know even where to begin. Sometimes people do get immobilized and don't even start. They think the circumstances have to be just so. They think when their kids get older when they have more spare time when they don't have such a heavy class load when they find a cause that breaks their heart then they will begin. I get it. I was that person. I wanted to "do something." I wanted to be a drop in the bucket that would turn into an ocean of loving, compassionate acts. But I didn't even know where to begin. I didn't know what broke my heart. What would make me weep? Sometimes I didn't even want to know that a need was out there. 

When you are living in oblivion/innocence/ignorance, it is so effortless to look the other way. Once you are made aware, it makes it near impossible to go on living without doing something. There is no going back to blissful naivety once you've become acquainted with a need. It's like Nehemiah. He was a Jew, born in Persia during the exile, so he didn't know Jerusalem other than he had relatives there. When he inquired as to the conditions among the Jews there who had survived exile in Jerusalem he went from being unaware of having his heart wrecked. "They told me, "The exile survivors who are left there in the province are in bad shape. Conditions are appalling. The wall of Jerusalem is still in rubble; the city gates are still cinders." When I heard this, I sat down and wept. I mourned for days, fasting and praying before the God-of-Heaven." (NE 1:3,4) The need was not directly affecting Nehemiah, yet he wept. For days. He sought God and then he set out to meet the need.

Perhaps you think: God wouldn't use me.  Why in the world when He has his pick of all the great, kind, loving people on the planet would He ever want to use the likes of me to accomplish something for His Glory? Why would He entrust me to love others?  To serve others? With my past? With my weaknesses? With my judgmental tendencies?  With my greed? With my selfishness?  With my potty mouth? With my grades? Whatever the reason you think you aren't "good" enough to accomplish something for His purpose have you ever thought that when we say we are incapable of being used by Him that we are saying He's made some mistake?  

God made each one of us perfectly and intentionally. He doesn't make mistakes.  It's not as though He had some terrible no-good-very-bad-day when He was creating you.  He knows you from the hairs on your head to the tips of your toes.  He knows your thoughts, your words, your heartbeat and the rhythm of your soul. It's because of the exquisite detail that makes you -you- that no one else can accomplish what you can. No one else can meet a need in the specifically same way as you. No one else can love as you love. Your gifts, skills & compassion differ from mine. What breaks my heart may not break yours. 

If you find yourself longing to "do something"  to serve your neighborhood, your city, your county, your campus, but you don't know what said something is can I encourage you to pray about it? To ask God what breaks your heart? He will be faithful and reveal something to you. He did to me. Years ago it was human trafficking that first gave an awareness to the myriad of needs of our world, country, state, county. And I began small. Sending letters & cards to a shelter in Greece that housed women freed from trafficking. Then it was building an awareness of what went on in our county and connecting with local resources.

 Since that time there have been many different opportunities I've been able to take part in: from giving my credit at a consignment store to a homeless woman so she could buy clothes with dignity, to having garage sales for at-risk-teens, to providing Christmas presents to kids whose parents were unable to provide one of their own.. I don't share this with you as a "look-at-me-I've-got-it-all-figured-out" kind of pat on the back, because truly, I am pretty sure I mess up & miss opportunities on a regular basis. 

What I hope to do by sharing with you is to encourage you. I too once wanted to love others. I wanted to "do something," I wanted to help to serve to make a difference. Sometimes I wonder if that is what Jesus meant when he told his followers: "Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples." (John 13:34,35)  He didn't say people would know we were set apart because of the fish logo on the back of our cars. Nor by the verses & well-meaning quotes we share on Facebook. Not even by the in-depth knowledge of doctrine we may have. None of which are insignificant.  But by our love. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think it's by the feeling of love, but rather the action. An outpouring of activity regardless of the outcome. Regardless of what we gain in return. Love as He loved us.

 If your heart is to love others (Or you want to have that heart) and you'd like to serve alongside those in our county who are already meeting a need here are some possibilities. The list is by no means exhaustive, but it's a start. And isn't that what we need sometimes? Just a start?

http://www.engedirefuge.com/engedi_house.html

http://www.skookumkids.org/

http://www.bellinghamhopehouse.com/

http://www.amysplaceforyouth.org/

http://thewhatcomdream.org/

http://www.reboundwc.com/who-we-are

http://www.pass-the-hat.org/

 

3 Steps to Host a Great Party for your Neighborhood
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The Christmas season is soon upon us and that means it is time to celebrate the wonderful season of Christmas with family and friends. Recently at Redeemer we encouraged the people within our Gospel Communities to start hosting parties and invite their neighbors and non-Christian friends to these gatherings. We want our Gospel Communities to throw such great parties that our neighbors that don't know Jesus want to come and join you. Yes this blog post may seem a bit soon before the season begins but we want you to start planning now. And these parties don't all have to be just seasonal, start now and invite neighbors over.

Mission is central in the life of our Gospel Communities and within those who are found in Christ. Christ came into this world on a mission to bring sinners back to God. Jesus had a mission, he did not sit back and not do anything, he was active and cared for us even to the point of death on a cross. As Christians we are called to care about all those who don't know Jesus. One of the primary reasons we gather as the body of Christ outside of Sundays is to reflect the glorious truths of our Savior, Jesus Christ. This Christmas season let us be active within our neighborhoods and be on mission.

So here are 3 easy steps to throwing a great party this Christmas season to get to know your neighbors. This is just a list of suggestions, but our hope is that these steps will spark disciples of Jesus to embrace being missionaries within every area of their lives.

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1. Come up with a catchy seasonal name for your party

It's important to come up with a name for your Christmas Bash. Don't do something simple like "Samish Neighborhood Christmas Party". Think outside the box! Do something like "The Ultimate Christmas Bash"! Make it unique to pique the interests of your neighbors and friends. God created you with a creative bone, so be creative and have fun with it.

Ideas for different Christmas Parties: 

  • Gift Exchange
  • Have a "Best Ever Christmas Enchilada Contest".
  • Progressive Dinner Party (For those in a GC who live close in proximity)
  • Christmas Caroling (Outside with candles, of course, the kids will love it)

2. Gather your GC Family to Pray and Plan

At this GC family gathering it is important to first and foremost ask God together to use this neighborhood party to bring glory to His Son Jesus Christ and ask Him to bring opportunities to get to know your neighbors and care for them. Ask God to give you creative minds to pull off a great party that is welcoming to people. Ask God to provide moments to talk about your King Jesus (Disclaimer: Don't be weird, listen to your neighbors and ask questions about them: more about this below)

After your time in prayer with your GC family, it is time to plan the party. Assign different jobs for people to do so you don't have to do everything.

  • Who's designing and/or making the invitations? (Physical invites are helpful for people to come, no Facebook. Don't be lazy, go door to door and invite people with a friendly smile to your Christmas Party) Easy Invitations to make.
  • Who's making the food? If it's too much to cook for a ton of people, plan the Christmas Party for after dinner, do dessert. Fun Food Ideas for Christmas Parties.
  • Make a guest list (At least know how many people is too many for you to connect with). Look at the location you are hosting your party. If space is limited, don't invite more than 8 people in your neighborhood. The smaller the place and the more crammed people feel at the party, the more people feel more guarded and shut off. Think of your environment carefully and choose how many people is too many. 
  • Assign people from your GC family will come to the party to do odd things around the house so you can be present talking to your neighbors. Not everyone from your GC needs to be at the actual party as that gets a little weird. (Have assigned people in your GC serve food, do dishes, refill drinks). These people should be present but not distracting. 
  • Know the space you intend to use and organize it accordingly. Check link for some great ideas on making the most of the space you have.
  • Plan which games to do. Even if it is cold outside, that’s ok, do games outside. Give people something to do besides just talking. Plan games for both adults and children. (Example of some games are horseshoes, corn hole, Red Rover, tag, and three legged races. Three legged races with parents and kids can be a huge hit and great icebreaker for everyone involved.) Other Great Party Game Ideas.

3. Have Fun and Get to Know Others at the Party

You are throwing the party to get to know your neighbors and become friends with them. So ask questions about your neighbor’s lives. Care about others by listening to them. You don't have to always talk, ask a lot questions. 

Sample Questions:

  • What do you do for work? Do you like the job? What's your dream job?
  • Do you have any children? What sort of things do you like to do for fun with them in ______ (Insert town name here)? 
  • What do you like to do for fun when you're not working? If it is something genuinely interesting, ask if you might have them show you some time. (Disclaimer for men and women: Before you go and ask someone to invite you along with them, to be above reproach, make sure you say this to gender specific people. This will just elevate any weird or false signals)

The goal is to have fun, get to know your neighbors and throw a great party. Be on mission this holiday season and may God continue to save people by His grace.

 

photo credit: Justin in SD via photopin cc